Is being alone a bad thing? Is it a cause of suffering? Does having people around ensures happiness? There are many such questions that have ambivalent answers, but i think i have definite answers to some these questions. And you can agree to disagree!
People are not at all necessary, they are necessary only for your social and psychological needs. Especially those people are unnecessary who just exist for namesake. And those people are definitely unnecessary who take you for granted and you still hope for them to reciprocate!
Times have changed in a way that is more unpleasant and it has harsh realities that we don't want to accept. But that doesn't change the reality that the world has become selfish, self-centered and indifferent. And to an extent there is nothing wrong about it because you cannot blame one person for it. It's a result of everyone's doing. The friend circles have shrinked, people have become less empathetic, they care less, and they don't mind moving on.
There is always a relationship, a friendship in everyone's life where we care more than we should, we expect more than we should and eventually we feel more than we should, but there is no reciprocation from the other person. It happens. Not everyone thinks same as you do, not everyone has to feel the way you do and not everyone has to care as much as you do. Everyone has the right to define their own priorities and so does you. But this scenario can be painful and so it is necessary to ensure that you have exercised control on your emotions. Contemplate things as they come your way and like a fool don't let yourself get played. Emotions are good but emotional drama is something we don't want.
We say we should not judge, but as we live in a hypocritical world, we have all the rights to do so. Sometimes you should judge people, not because they have done something wrong but to ensure they when things go wrong, they will be there. You don't need people whose name only exist in your life. Keep people who are real, who care and who are there for you. Number of people in your life doesn't mean anything, it doesn't help you in any ways. Even if you have couple of friends you can be happier than most other people. You don't need to lead a life with unnecessary baggage. It's fine to cut off people from your life and let them go. Don't judge yourself about it and don't care about other's judgement too, because we are all the birds on same branch with difference being what you have done to them, they have done it to someone else.
No matter how many contacts you have on whatsapp or facebook but you will be talking to only 5-10 people out of that. And that is more than enough, seriously! More the people, more the gloominess, more the drama, more the expectations. We don't need that. Sometimes there are also relationships/friendships that matter a lot, but the expectations are not balances and you are sure to get irritated and feel neglected. But here you don't have to give up or become cynical, just take a time off and accept the fact. Personally for me, taking a break from all social platforms has helped me accept things i wasn't able to earlier. Acceptance make life easier and relationships, complication free.
Take a break and think, who deserves to be in your life and who should be cut off. Its fine to let them go. Be cool about it. And those who have completely neglected you, your feelings, your caring and have taken you completely for granted. give them back. That's my favorite part.
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