Bronnie Ware at http://inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html.
According to the above mentioned blog the top 5 regrets people make on death bed are :
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
If we think carefully we all might end up having the same regret on our death bed. We are yet in our quarter life but we can relate to every regret listed above.
Often we get frustrated of our life being orchestrated by opinions of others, views of others and expectations of others, so why don't we take a stand there for ourselves? Why can't we raise our voice to lead our life as we please? For once we will take up what others want us to, but will we be happy? Regret is an anchor. It never allows you to lead your life smoothly. It will keep you dragging back. Don't let yourself get torn between what it is and what it could have been. It's not pleasant.
As soon as we graduated, we were all worried about money because of sudden urge to be independent financially. We work hard, we work dedicatedly to make our life and the lives of people who depend on us financially but ultimately we end up having "No life". We work like an ass to build bank balance by making a trade off with subtle pleasures if life. We miss being with family, sharing happiness with them, having a hearty laugh etc. We are so much worried about future that we don't have time to reflect on happiness of present.
We all are so much worried about others that we suppress our feelings to maintain the relationship. Sometimes there is nothing left in a relationship, but we don't express it because we don't want to hurt. Sometimes we love someone very much but because of fear of rejection or spoiling friendship, we don't express our feelings. We always underestimate the understanding of the opposite person. Its better to express than to impress. We cannot control reactions of others but it is important to blurt out. Honesty always comes with a price, and here it may make your relationship better or set you free from a bitter one.
Life is a race and if you don't run fast, you will be consumed by the world. We just run blindly behind job, money, marriage, responsibility etc.. that we forget to spare time for ourselves and more importantly our friends. With most of us now already working, we might be experiencing that we don't have time to chat, we haven't caught up with a friend since many days, we feel aloof from friends. This is bound to happen and how you make time or whether you make time is up to you. Life will get busier with time and there is no better stress buster than old friends. Don't let them slip.
You cannot learn to live, if you don't step out of your comfort zone. Most of the happiness we seek lie outside our comfort zone and its a matter of choice whether we explore them or not. Its just the beginning that seeks courage. Take the first step and everything else will follow on its own. Don't get stuck up in day to day things, allow yourself to be happy. Its your life and your choice, so choose what you want for yourself! Live free. Live happy. Make a choice. Now!
According to the above mentioned blog the top 5 regrets people make on death bed are :
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
If we think carefully we all might end up having the same regret on our death bed. We are yet in our quarter life but we can relate to every regret listed above.
Often we get frustrated of our life being orchestrated by opinions of others, views of others and expectations of others, so why don't we take a stand there for ourselves? Why can't we raise our voice to lead our life as we please? For once we will take up what others want us to, but will we be happy? Regret is an anchor. It never allows you to lead your life smoothly. It will keep you dragging back. Don't let yourself get torn between what it is and what it could have been. It's not pleasant.
As soon as we graduated, we were all worried about money because of sudden urge to be independent financially. We work hard, we work dedicatedly to make our life and the lives of people who depend on us financially but ultimately we end up having "No life". We work like an ass to build bank balance by making a trade off with subtle pleasures if life. We miss being with family, sharing happiness with them, having a hearty laugh etc. We are so much worried about future that we don't have time to reflect on happiness of present.
We all are so much worried about others that we suppress our feelings to maintain the relationship. Sometimes there is nothing left in a relationship, but we don't express it because we don't want to hurt. Sometimes we love someone very much but because of fear of rejection or spoiling friendship, we don't express our feelings. We always underestimate the understanding of the opposite person. Its better to express than to impress. We cannot control reactions of others but it is important to blurt out. Honesty always comes with a price, and here it may make your relationship better or set you free from a bitter one.
Life is a race and if you don't run fast, you will be consumed by the world. We just run blindly behind job, money, marriage, responsibility etc.. that we forget to spare time for ourselves and more importantly our friends. With most of us now already working, we might be experiencing that we don't have time to chat, we haven't caught up with a friend since many days, we feel aloof from friends. This is bound to happen and how you make time or whether you make time is up to you. Life will get busier with time and there is no better stress buster than old friends. Don't let them slip.
You cannot learn to live, if you don't step out of your comfort zone. Most of the happiness we seek lie outside our comfort zone and its a matter of choice whether we explore them or not. Its just the beginning that seeks courage. Take the first step and everything else will follow on its own. Don't get stuck up in day to day things, allow yourself to be happy. Its your life and your choice, so choose what you want for yourself! Live free. Live happy. Make a choice. Now!
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