Existence

I am in a race without any clues

Where there is nothing to win only to lose

To be loved I have paid a cost

To win someone, myself I have lost

I brought upon me all the mayhem

and for what? just to be one of them.

I have now put on a mask

their acceptance is all I ask

I know I am not enough

but I will be till I bluff

they couldn't love me as I was

and so in loving myself I took a pause

There is nothing in my life but regret

For in the end, I was squashed like a burnt cigarette

Why do we allow them to validate us

why do we let them manipulate us

do we really need their acceptance

do we really need to compromise our existence?

I know we all complain of not being loved

but how will someone love you,

when you don't love yourself enough.

You can pretend, you can carry on the charade

but when you give up your soul, you lose the trade

Everything is gonna be fine

Open the door and let me in

You don't have to fight this alone

Don't submerge in the darkness

Don't hide, because I can hear you cry & moan

I know your heart feels heavy

Because of the feelings unsaid

I know you feel emptiness around you

let me in, because you have been made

What is it that you fear?

I know life has failed you

I know your heart has turned cold

But bare your soul to me

because I have only known you as bold

I understand it's your fight

I understand it's your plight

but still you don't have to be alone

your spirit is like a cat with lives nine

Trust me. In the end,

Everything is gonna be fine!

Let it go & Move on

Unfortunately, not every relationship is a beautiful one. Sometimes we end up with the wrong person who does more harm than good. Losing someone is a very painful experience, but leaving someone who exerts a negative effect on you, who makes you doubt yourself, who treats you like crap is the bravest thing to do.It is difficult to be an optimist when we lose someone, the pain, and the void accompanies us but, it's better to destroy a relationship than to self-destruct. So, if you have chosen to lose a person instead of losing yourself then congratulations!

“Don't let toxic people infect you with the fear of giving and receiving one of the most powerful forces in this world... LOVE!”― Yvonne Pierre, The Day My Soul Cried: A Memoir

Even when we know that the person is toxic and will bring nothing but harm to us, letting go can still be difficult. If someone has been around you for a long time or you have shared many important moments and experiences with them, your attachment to them may be powerful. It takes a lot of courage to finally accept that the person is not worthy of being in your life. You might have thought of giving them chances or even change yourself to accommodate according to their behaviour, but all in vain. Ask yourself whether they are really worth losing yourself? Because ultimately they are not going to change, they are not going to get better, only you are going to get worse. Sometimes, after leaving a person you might have an itch to return to them, to let them in your life again, don't do it. Remember why you had let them go in the first place. It doesn't make any sense to let someone destroy your mental peace. You deserve better and you are worth much more than contempt.It takes a lot of courage and maturity to get out of an unhealthy relationship. Many times people cling on to a toxic relationship because they are afraid of being alone or they lack the confidence in themselves to get up and move on. Nothing and nobody is worth losing your self-respect, self-esteem and your existence. If you can't be yourself around someone you love, what's the meaning of being in a relationship? When you change yourself for someone, you usually end up in an unhappy place because the charade always comes to an end one day. It's better to leave a relationship gracefully rather than getting frustrated and making an ugly mess. You will meet all kind of people some who will want you to change, some who will love you the way you are, find them, keep them. There is no point in trying to fit in because you can never please everybody. When you sense that being in a relationship or friendship with someone comes at the cost of your identity or values, it’s time to leave.It's difficult to lose someone and get on with it immediately. It takes an emotional toll and it takes time to heal, but in the long run, it's all worth it. When you throw out the toxic people from your life, you realise how much time and energy you had been wasting on them. You will finally be able to connect with yourself and realise that you deserve more than you settled for. Don't sulk over losing someone because it's better to lose someone than losing yourself. Eventually, you will get over them and there won't be any regrets. Just allow yourself to move on and be happy. (With reference from lifehack.org)

The Truth About Relationships

Relationships have become nothing more than a status. It has almost become like a competition and people end up at wrong places due to that peer pressure. We fail to see what this peer pressure has done to us. The impact of this pressure is not only physical but psychological as well. 

Relationships have become more about how you look than how you are. If you are not fat, if you are not dark, if you have an air of swag around you, if you have a swanky car and if you hangout at high-end places, you are a package. If you are not anything from this list, you will feel the heat. People have made relationship a barometer and I don't know to measure what! But those people who can't stand this pressure usually end up abusing their body in one way or the other. It leaves such a psychological impact on a person that the person hates to look at themselves in the mirror. It's very important to accept yourself and love who you are. It's the only way to attend peace. Even those who are fit and perfect feel the pressure of staying the same, looking same. Where we need conscience today, people are just becoming conscious and that too in every wrong way. One bad selfie can ruin a day. When you find out that the L size doesn't suit you much, you stop eating. When you feel that abs are a must to get a girlfriend, you join the best gym with a personal trainer even though your parents cannot afford it. 

We are all doing wrong things and we need to think about it. By prioritising how we look, we are only pushing ourselves towards validation. We don't need people to accept us, we need to accept ourselves. Remember when they fall for you, they should fall for who you are and how you are and not how you look. Beauty is temporary, you are forever. Just because you don't fit their definition of perfect, doesn't mean you are flawed